You are in control of your life and the outcome. Yes, there is a balance of fate and freewill, but if you sit back and let life happen to you, you will miss opportunities for you to become what you desire. Instead of waiting on happiness or for things to fall into place, start to action out a plan for your life. Create a big picture goal and do at least one thing everyday your future self will hug you for.
This passage comes from the popular self-love book, “Find Your Happy”. This book has truly helped me gain perspective on everyday feelings that come along with self-doubt and stress. Sometimes, it is so hard to stay on track. Once I get home from 8 hours of working on numbers and spreadsheets, all I want to do is lay down, eat a bowl of mint chocolate chip ice cream with rainbow sprinkles, while watching multiple episodes of Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix. All I want to do is Netflix and Chill.
However, although every bone in my body wants to lay down and relax, I know that it would be more beneficial for me to change into my gym clothes and go to the Max (I will be posting about the Max soon. If you are looking for motivation to get to the gym google The Max Challenge and see if there are any near you!).
Now, once I get home from the gym I still want to lay down, with a bowl of ice cream, watching McSteamy and McDreamy on my TV, HOWEVER, that isn’t the most beneficial thing I can do for my future self. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t always stick to what I should do, but this book definitely keeps me on track.
Showing your soft side is a beautiful experience. You don’t need to hide your real emotions from those you love. When you go inward and trust yourself, you will see how important your emotions are. Showing the real you takes courage, and that is real vulnerability. (Find Your Happy, Shannon Kaiser)
Just when I thought life was moving too slowly, I was scooped up and thrown across the next chapter of my personal timeline. I quit the Port Authority in late November 2016. I was doing well there. Found my friends, started getting really efficient and quick at my job, and really didn’t have to do too much. I just couldn’t see myself staying in a position that had no room for advancement. What do you do after being a Board Meeting Specialist? During the downtime at my previous job, I applied for the job I have and love now.
Currently, I am a Compensation Analyst for a major health care system. I now come up with recommendations of pay structures, employee pay rates, and incentive plans around the organization. It’s a job that actually appreciates my analytical skills and is actually making me a better professional.
Life at 24 years old is hard. Personally, it comes with a lot of anxiety that is hard to deal with on your own. I was never one to have a lot of anxiety when I was younger. I would think about the stress and stuff it alllllllllllllll the way down, deep inside my mind and not confront the feels. It worked… until it didn’t. There comes a point of your life where you have to decide. Are you going to be the person you are now for the rest of your life or are you going to strive to be the best you that you can be? In my mind, I reached the point of not knowing the person I was turning into. I was going on day by day, not having much fun. Not feeling like my happy and goofy self– just feeling numb.
I had to make a life choice that forced me to feel again. It was my wakeup call of what I really wanted and need in my life. This was my fork in the road. Did I want to be the person that I was turning into? Or, did I want to lift myself up and be supportive of the person I want to become.
Now, I am trying to work towards being the person I want to be. Hopefully I’ll be able to keep on top of this blog and keep everyone updated on my quest in finding my happy.
Hello my fellow bloggers, social media stalkers, and friends just checkin’ in! I apologize for the inconsistency within the past two weeks but the type of job I have is comparable to the new Joker ride in Six Flags Great Adventure.
Oh, if you don’t know what type of ride that is let me tell ya– it’s this crazy ass 4-D spin roller coaster that flips riders upside down six times for a duration of 50 seconds. This basically sums up my job… Throughout each month I have one week that it is completely calm and there is less than steady work throughout the day. I like these days only because I get out of work on time. Unlike the weeks, roughly two per month, where my world is thrown off course and I am flipped around on a real 4-D roller coaster filled with Executives, deadlines, late nights and early mornings.
Of course, I am not complaining. I get a paycheck bi-weekly that allows me to pay for my car, go on vacation, purchase monthly massages, and go to my favorite (very expensive) gym.
ADHD MOMENT: LOOK OUT FOR MY POST ABOUT MY GYM! IT’S GONNNN BE GREEEEAT!
So I’m happy that I am employed, don’t get me wrong, but I wish I was just doing more. The restless energy has settled in since I am back on the ground from the roller coaster of work for this week. However, I have been doing so much to try and subside the feeling of not doing enough. Since my last blog I have signed up to be the Captain of a Co-Ed Softball team named, This is Livin’ (we lost 20-4 our first game… there’s only going up from here! #positivevibes). I’ve signed up for monthly massages from Massage Envy to relieve some of the monthly hell week stressors. I’ve signed back up for The Max Challenge, which I will post about relatively soon. And lastly, I leased a new car! My new baby Remy (2016 Rav-4) which I love.
So, a lot has been going on in my life. I’d love to hear about yours, is there anything that you are changing or want to change in the upcoming month to improve your overall happiness? Comment or not, the choice is yours.
Let me begin this blog by saying that I am not a super fan of summer. GASP… I know. The summer is just so hot and sweaty and smelly and sticky. This is the time where “chub rub” becomes a major influence in your “ootd” and girls start wearing less and going out more #SorryDrake. I’ve never been the type that has to go tanning on the beach every weekend. I’ve never been the type that feels the need to visit a Tiki bar just because the weather is excruciatingly hot. I’ve just never been a summer baby… that is, before I had the option of opting into this lovely thing calledSummer Flex Hours.Basically, the managers in the department gave everyone the opportunity of taking a day off, bi-weekly, throughout the summer. In return, everyone who opts in to taking Summer Flex Hours has to make up the 7.25 hours within the two-week span. I am ALL about Flex hours, and here is why:
Increases morale & employee engagement
Makes everyone a little more happy
Employees have extra time to run errands, de-stress, or spend with family
WELL DESERVED BREAK!
If I ever own my own business, I want to give my employees the ability to have a life outside of work. Leaving the house at 6am and not getting home until 7pm is not living. It is miserable. After a while of the long commutes, employees will burn out and disengage. Flex hours (summer or naw) have the ability to increase the productivity and job satisfaction. Of course, this isn’t the main root of happiness, but having the ability to manage your calendar with one extra day available to do whatever your beautiful heart desires, is a step towards happy.
Flexin’ on Friday
I spent my first Summer Flex day focusing on myself. Lately, I’ve been cranky and unhappy so spending a day loving yourself is critical. I woke up around 8am after I snoozed the 5:15am alarm that I stupidly forgot to turn off. Woke up with no plans for the day and no worries.
Around 9am, I decided to call Massage Envy to schedule an appointment that I have been putting off for months. Thanks to my best friend, I could spend $75 on whatever I wanted at Massage Envy. Since I love a good massage, I scheduled a 90 minute massage (and let me tell you—– it was SO worth it.).
SUSHI DATE W. BESTIE
After total relaxation, what is a better way to nourish your body than a Sushi date with your best friend? THAT’S A RHETORICAL QUESTION B/C THERE IS NO BETTER WAY.
Next stop was to my normal nail salon. I’ve been going to the same place since I was 14 and they know me by name. I kind of feel famous for that hour of ultimate girliness & let me tell you…. fame is overrated kids. After secretly texting my best friend the whole time talking about the changes in demographics throughout the nail salon, we were both dried and polished AF.
BOWLING W. BOYFRIEND
After a well deserved nap, I went over my boyfriends house. He made plans for us to have a bowling double date with his high school friend and her boyfriend. After playing three games and carrying our team during the couples tournament (ha), we called it quits. I’m surprised I was still up at that point. I had such a long day that I thought I’d be assed out by 9pm, but the old restless grandma stayed up till 2:30am! I still got it ! (not).
Moral of the blog is: love yourself & put your happiness first.