Self- reflection is key towards having any type of positive change in life. Change is easier to comprehend and implement if you are aware of your faults, strengths, quirks, and comfort zones.
A passage from “Find Your Happy” states that “new opportunities are on their way to you. They will come much faster when you give yourself permission to step outside of the comfort zone”.
This really speaks to me at this point of my life. I am moving out of my parents house and renting an apartment on my own. I realized recently that my childhood house is my comfort zone in a way. When I lived there I didn’t have to budget my money. I didn’t have to focus on saving for my future by creating a plan. I had limited bills and responsibilities and worked to have funds to spend freely. However, I never wanted to get to a point in life that I have to rely on others to live. This is where I have played it relatively safe.
I’m definitely not implying that I have played it safe for no reason. I completed my Masters, saved up enough money to actually feel comfortable with moving out, and have a pretty good career. I played strategically safe.
My main issue is that I don’t want to take the easy way out (even though my parents want me to). I have never had to struggle as much as they did growing up. My father was living on his own without parents at such a young age. My mother was in a women’s shelter for a short period of time because of the struggles her mother had faced. I, on the other hand, have always had a comfortable, beautiful home, air conditioner in the hot summers and heat in the super cold winters. I would never want to go through what my parents went through however, I think growing and figuring your way out is the only way to deal with the stress life shoves in your mouth.
If I am going to learn how to budget effectively, pay all of my bills on time, decide that getting a Starbucks may not be the smartest financial decision at this point, and be able to say I got this … this move, out of my comfort zone, will be completely worth the rent.
You are in control of your life and the outcome. Yes, there is a balance of fate and freewill, but if you sit back and let life happen to you, you will miss opportunities for you to become what you desire. Instead of waiting on happiness or for things to fall into place, start to action out a plan for your life. Create a big picture goal and do at least one thing everyday your future self will hug you for.
This passage comes from the popular self-love book, “Find Your Happy”. This book has truly helped me gain perspective on everyday feelings that come along with self-doubt and stress. Sometimes, it is so hard to stay on track. Once I get home from 8 hours of working on numbers and spreadsheets, all I want to do is lay down, eat a bowl of mint chocolate chip ice cream with rainbow sprinkles, while watching multiple episodes of Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix. All I want to do is Netflix and Chill.
However, although every bone in my body wants to lay down and relax, I know that it would be more beneficial for me to change into my gym clothes and go to the Max (I will be posting about the Max soon. If you are looking for motivation to get to the gym google The Max Challenge and see if there are any near you!).
Now, once I get home from the gym I still want to lay down, with a bowl of ice cream, watching McSteamy and McDreamy on my TV, HOWEVER, that isn’t the most beneficial thing I can do for my future self. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t always stick to what I should do, but this book definitely keeps me on track.
Showing your soft side is a beautiful experience. You don’t need to hide your real emotions from those you love. When you go inward and trust yourself, you will see how important your emotions are. Showing the real you takes courage, and that is real vulnerability. (Find Your Happy, Shannon Kaiser)
Just when I thought life was moving too slowly, I was scooped up and thrown across the next chapter of my personal timeline. I quit the Port Authority in late November 2016. I was doing well there. Found my friends, started getting really efficient and quick at my job, and really didn’t have to do too much. I just couldn’t see myself staying in a position that had no room for advancement. What do you do after being a Board Meeting Specialist? During the downtime at my previous job, I applied for the job I have and love now.
Currently, I am a Compensation Analyst for a major health care system. I now come up with recommendations of pay structures, employee pay rates, and incentive plans around the organization. It’s a job that actually appreciates my analytical skills and is actually making me a better professional.
Life at 24 years old is hard. Personally, it comes with a lot of anxiety that is hard to deal with on your own. I was never one to have a lot of anxiety when I was younger. I would think about the stress and stuff it alllllllllllllll the way down, deep inside my mind and not confront the feels. It worked… until it didn’t. There comes a point of your life where you have to decide. Are you going to be the person you are now for the rest of your life or are you going to strive to be the best you that you can be? In my mind, I reached the point of not knowing the person I was turning into. I was going on day by day, not having much fun. Not feeling like my happy and goofy self– just feeling numb.
I had to make a life choice that forced me to feel again. It was my wakeup call of what I really wanted and need in my life. This was my fork in the road. Did I want to be the person that I was turning into? Or, did I want to lift myself up and be supportive of the person I want to become.
Now, I am trying to work towards being the person I want to be. Hopefully I’ll be able to keep on top of this blog and keep everyone updated on my quest in finding my happy.
Hello my fellow bloggers, social media stalkers, and friends just checkin’ in! I apologize for the inconsistency within the past two weeks but the type of job I have is comparable to the new Joker ride in Six Flags Great Adventure.
Oh, if you don’t know what type of ride that is let me tell ya– it’s this crazy ass 4-D spin roller coaster that flips riders upside down six times for a duration of 50 seconds. This basically sums up my job… Throughout each month I have one week that it is completely calm and there is less than steady work throughout the day. I like these days only because I get out of work on time. Unlike the weeks, roughly two per month, where my world is thrown off course and I am flipped around on a real 4-D roller coaster filled with Executives, deadlines, late nights and early mornings.
Of course, I am not complaining. I get a paycheck bi-weekly that allows me to pay for my car, go on vacation, purchase monthly massages, and go to my favorite (very expensive) gym.
ADHD MOMENT: LOOK OUT FOR MY POST ABOUT MY GYM! IT’S GONNNN BE GREEEEAT!
So I’m happy that I am employed, don’t get me wrong, but I wish I was just doing more. The restless energy has settled in since I am back on the ground from the roller coaster of work for this week. However, I have been doing so much to try and subside the feeling of not doing enough. Since my last blog I have signed up to be the Captain of a Co-Ed Softball team named, This is Livin’ (we lost 20-4 our first game… there’s only going up from here! #positivevibes). I’ve signed up for monthly massages from Massage Envy to relieve some of the monthly hell week stressors. I’ve signed back up for The Max Challenge, which I will post about relatively soon. And lastly, I leased a new car! My new baby Remy (2016 Rav-4) which I love.
So, a lot has been going on in my life. I’d love to hear about yours, is there anything that you are changing or want to change in the upcoming month to improve your overall happiness? Comment or not, the choice is yours.